I rushed up the stairs and pushed open the brightly lit door of the optical shop.
“Hello.”
The owner greeted me with a warm smile. He had already passed his usual closing time, yet he had kindly stayed open an extra thirty minutes because the lenses I ordered had finally arrived after a week’s wait.
“Sorry I’m late.”
I felt a little guilty knowing that my delay had kept him from going home.
“Not at all,” he replied. “The lenses took longer than expected. Let’s just check the alignment one more time before I fit them into your frame.”
After a quick adjustment and a few measurements, he began fitting the new lenses into my glasses. While I waited, I found myself watching the television that had been playing in the background.
A popular Korean dating show was on.
My wife had mentioned it several times over the past few months, saying it had become quite popular. Since I had never really paid attention to it before, I decided to watch.
The concept was simple.
Men and women spent time together, trying to decide who they were interested in. Some approached each other with confidence. Others hesitated. One woman walked toward a room, making a choice that could change the direction of her future relationships.
For some reason, I couldn’t stop watching.
Then the owner called me over.
A few minutes later, I was walking home with my newly fitted glasses.
Yet my thoughts were still on that television program.
What would I have chosen if I had been standing in their place?
Of course, a single decision does not determine an entire life. But choosing a life partner after only a handful of meetings must be one of the most difficult decisions a person can make.
Was such a meeting destiny?
Or was it simply one possibility chosen from countless alternatives?
Perhaps it could become a happy ending.
Perhaps it could become a tragedy.
I did not meet my wife through a television show.
I do not remember carefully calculating our future together, comparing advantages and disadvantages, or trying to predict what life would look like twenty years later.
What I remember is much simpler.
I was drawn to her.
That was enough.
My parents did not immediately approve of my decision, but eventually they accepted it.
Today, my wife wields the mighty authority known as menopause, and the entire family experiences its power on a regular basis. Life has a sense of humor.
Many young people dream of finding the perfect partner—someone with financial stability, education, attractiveness, and every other desirable quality.
Yet having all the right qualifications does not guarantee a happy marriage.
Choosing a life partner may be one of the most important decisions we ever make.
Throughout history, people have searched for tools to help them make such decisions.
In the West, some people turn to religion, psychology, mentors, or personal intuition.
In East Asia, many people historically consulted systems such as K-Bazi (the Four Pillars of Destiny), using birth data as one way to reflect on compatibility, personality, and life direction.
Even today, people continue to seek guidance.
Some believe these systems offer valuable insight.
Others dismiss them entirely as superstition.
Personally, I understand both perspectives.
Because I do not see K-Bazi as a machine that predicts the future.
I see it as a compass.
A compass does not walk the path for you.
A compass does not make your decisions.
A compass cannot guarantee that you will reach your destination.
It simply helps you understand where you are standing and which direction you might consider.
Ultimately, the responsibility for every choice still belongs to us.
Perhaps that is why I have always viewed K-Bazi not as an answer, but as a tool.
A tool is only as useful as the person using it.
The compass may point north, but it cannot decide where you want to go.
That decision remains yours.
And maybe that is the real question.
What tools do you use when making the most important decisions in your life?
Religion?
Family advice?
Personal experience?
Intuition?
Artificial intelligence?
Or something else entirely?
In future articles, I would like to explore how K-Bazi can be used as a practical tool for understanding relationships, career choices, personal strengths, and the decisions we face throughout life.
Not as a system of fortune-telling, but as a framework for reflection, judgment, and self-understanding.
I would love to hear your thoughts.
What tools help guide your most important decisions?
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— Hunhan Dosa